NOTE: Several family members were brutally slaughtered recently, so I will take a break from writing. Their deaths erased my affinity for writing about politics or the economy, thus I'll later limit myself to health and brainpower in addition to completing my book on rapidly overcoming racism and bigotry. BTW, the two men who murdered my father are still on the lam; I am offering up to $100,000 for information leading to their arrest and conviction.
Revenge's bad rap: deserved or not?
Revenge has acquired a bad reputation as a negative emotion that does more harm than good. We're told to forgive and forget, or to let the local prosecutor do the dirty work for us when things get really bad, such as when my father was murdered. Although I have a doctorate degree and have studied psychology and behavior for decades, one of my relatives (I'll call him Dave) without a degree recently taught me an important lesson about revenge.
Dave told me about one of the young punks in his area who would often drive by his home at a dangerously excessive speed well above the posted limit. Dave worried that one of his kids would be hit and killed by SpeedRacer, age 17 or so, who evidently was not deterred by the prospect of a speeding ticket or even a manslaughter charge. Videotaping SpeedRacer's racing also did nothing. Like most parents, Dave loves his kids, but he did something that most parents would not do. Dave stopped SpeedRacer one day and told him that if he ever hit one of his kids, he'd better hope that the police got to him before he did, because he would literally tear him apart. What I haven't yet mentioned is that Dave is large, strong, and physically imposing. He once crushed the rib cage of someone by giving him a play bear hug. If Dave were enraged, I have no doubt that the scrawny SpeedRacer would be turned into mincemeat without using any of the firearms in Dave's extensive gun collection. Dave would never start a fight, but given sufficient provocation (such as seeing his son splattered on SpeedRacer's hood), well, heaven help you.
Dave's threat did what the police and umpteen laws could not accomplish: SpeedRacer stopped speeding, at least around Dave's home. I think that parents have an ethical obligation to safeguard their children as much as possible, and most parents would probably agree with me . . . yet I can't imagine most parents going as far as Dave did. That's too bad.
